The following questions and answers have been taken from questions from members and acquaintances and the resulting answers from the MCBC Pastor with other sources of information and years of asking many of these questions himself and searching out the answers. If you have questions about what MCBC believes the Bible to teach on any topic that is not answered here, please contact your Small Group, Sunday School or Team Leader.
1. What are Medical Center Baptist Church’s Beliefs?
2. What does MCBC believe about holy communion? What are considered sacraments at MCBC?
3. Will MCBC baptize a person who lives unmarried with another person?
4. What does the bible say about homosexuality?
5. What is the baptism of the Holy Spirit?
6. What does it mean to be a chosen people?
7. What about stem cell research on embryonic tissue?
8. What is the meaning of "the fear the Lord?"
9. Can I tithe to another Christian organization?
10. Should I pay off my debts or tithe?
11. Do we really have free will?
13. What does Jesus say about divorce?
16. Rebuilding trust
18. When to turn the other cheek: Revenge vs. Self Defense
20. Women and 1 Corinthians 14?
22. Serving communion: Am I worthy?
24. Is doing drugs really so wrong?
26. Helping my child understand God.
27. What is the meaning of a "New Earth"?
28. Christian rumors on the web
29. Why does God bless the evil but not the good?
31. Is evolution part of God's plan?
32. What about people who live in a country without Christian witness?
33. What does the bible say about drinking alcohol?
34. What does the bible say about angels?
35. Are there animals in heaven?
36. Do I have to get baptized again at MCBC?
37. Christianity vs. Catholicism
39. Decision for Christ after death
41. Easter
42. Forgiveness
44. Jesus as a child
45. Do we have deacons at MCBC?
47. Salvation - Can We Feel It?
52. Tithing #1
53. Tithing #2
54. Tithing #3
55. Tithing #4
56. Trinity
57. Waiting
58. Woman Pastors
59. Worry
61. Healing
63. Where does MCBC stand on abortion?
64. What is MCBC’s position on Political and Foreign Policies?
65. Can homosexuals be members of MCBC?
66. Can unmarried heterosexual couples living together be members of MCBC?
1. What
are
What We Believe: Most of these are covered by the 2000 Baptist Faith
and Message
ABOUT GOD
God is the
Creator and Ruler of the universe. He has eternally existed in three persons:
the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit. These three are co-equal and are one
God.
Genesis 1:1,26,27; 3:22; Psalm 90:2;
Matthew 28:19; 1 Peter 1:2; 2 Corinthians 13:14
ABOUT MAN
Man is made in the spiritual image of God,
to be like Him in character. He is the supreme object of God´s
creation. Although man has tremendous potential for good, he is marred by an
attitude of disobedience toward God called "sin". This attitude
separates man from God.
Genesis 1:27; Psalm 8:3-6; Isaiah 53:6a;
Romans 3:23; Isaiah 59:1,2
ABOUT ETERNITY
Man was created to exist forever. He will
either exist eternally separated from God by sin, or
in union with God through forgiveness and salvation. To be eternally separated
from God is Hell. To be eternally in union with Him is eternal life. Heaven and
Hell are places of eternal existence.
John 3:16; John 2:25; John 5:11-13; Romans
6:23; Revelation 20:15; 1 John 5:11-12; Matthew 25:31-46
ABOUT JESUS CHRIST
Jesus Christ is the Son of God. He is
co-equal with the Father. Jesus lived a sinless human life and offered Himself
as the perfect sacrifice for the sins of all men by dying on a cross. He arose
from the dead after three days to demonstrate His power over sin and death. He
ascended to Heaven´s glory and will return again to
earth to reign as King of kings, and Lord of lords.
Matthew 1:22,23; Isaiah 9:6; John 1:1-5,
14:10-30; Hebrews 4:14,15; 1 Corinthians 15:3,4; Romans 1:3,4; Acts
1:9-11; 1 Timothy 6:14,15; Titus 2:13
ABOUT SALVATION
Salvation is a gift from God to man. Man
can never make up for his sin by self-improvement or good works. Only by
trusting in Jesus Christ as God´s offer of
forgiveness can man be saved from sin´s penalty.
Eternal life begins the moment one receives Jesus Christ into his life by
faith.
Romans 6:23; Ephesians 2:8,9; John 14:6,
1:12; Titus 3:5; Galatians 3:26; Romans 5:1
ABOUT ETERNAL SECURITY
Because God gives man eternal life through
Jesus Christ, the believer is secure in salvation for eternity. Salvation is
maintained by the grace and power of God, not by the self-effort of the
Christian. It is the grace and keeping power of God that gives this security.
John 10:29; 2 Timothy 1:12; Hebrews
7:25; 10:10,14; 1 Peter 1:3-5
ABOUT THE HOLY SPIRIT
The Holy Spirit is equal with the Father
and the Son as God. He is present in the world to make men aware of their need
for Jesus Christ. He also lives in every Christian from the moment of salvation.
He provides the Christian with power for living, understanding of spiritual
truth, and guidance in doing what is right. The Christian seeks to live under
His control daily.
2 Corinthians 3:17; John 16:7-13,
14:16,17; Acts 1:8; 1 Corinthians 2:12, 3:16; Ephesians 1:13; Galatians
5:25; Ephesians 5:1
ABOUT THE BIBLE
The Bible is God´s
Word to all men. It was written by human authors, under the supernatural
guidance of the Holy Spirit. It is the supreme source of truth for Christian
beliefs and living. Because it is inspired by God, it is truth without any
mixture of error.
2 Timothy 3:16; 2 Peter 1:20,21; 2 Timothy 1:13; Psalm 119:105,160, 12:6; Proverbs
30:5
2.
What does MCBC believe about holy
communion? What are considered sacraments at MCBC?
The only sacrament we have at MCBC is that one would accept Jesus into their
heart and confess Him as Lord and Savior. Romans 10:9 "That if you confess
with your mouth, "Jesus is Lord," and believe in your heart that God
raised Him from the dead, you will be saved." There are many scriptures on
this.
We do celebrate Holy Communion and believe it is one of the two ordinances
Christ gave the church. Water baptism would be the other. Since Jesus instituted
Holy Communion on a Thursday night and then it was practiced in homes in the
New Testament, we don't land on a certain day or time to take communion.
The Lord's Supper: Communion With God's Family
Jesus never asked His disciples to remember His birth. But He did instruct them
to remember his death and resurrection. He gave the church two visible symbols
(called "ordinances") as reminders of His death. These two ordinances
are: Baptism and The Lord's Supper. The Lord's Supper
is an object lesson that represents a great spiritual truth for believers.
What Is The Lord's Supper? (1 Cor. 11:23-26)
1. It is a SIMPLE ACT: The Lord Jesus, on the night He
was betrayed, took bread..." (vs. 23)
2. It is a REMINDER: ...and when He had given thanks, He broke it and said,
'This is my body, which is for you; eat it in remembrance of me.'" (vs.
24)
3. It is a SYMBOL: In the same way, He took the cup, saying, 'This cup is the
new covenant in my blood; drink it to remember me.'" (vs. 25)
4. It is a STATEMENT OF FAITH: For whenever you eat
the bread and drink the cup, you proclaim the Lord's death until He comes
back." (vs. 26)
Who Should Take The Lord's Supper?
1. Only those who are already BELIEVERS (Mark
2. For anyone who eats and drinks without recognizing the body of the Lord eats
and drinks judgment upon himself." 2 Cor. 11:29
How Do I Prepare Myself For The Lord's Supper?
1. Therefore whoever eats the bread or drinks the cup of the Lord in an
unworthy manner will be guilty of sinning against the body and blood of the
Lord. A person ought to examine himself before he eats of the bread and drinks
of the cup." 1 Cor. 11:27-28
By...
Self-Examination
1 Cor.
1 John 1:9
Recommitment
Rom. 12:1 Restoring Relationships
Matt.
Jesus never said when or how often believers should observe The Lord's Supper.
He instituted it on a Thursday night. In the Bible, Christians observed the
communion in small groups in homes.
3.
Will
Question: Will MCBChurch baptize a
person who lives unmarried with another person?
Answer: The short answer is yes. However, the logic behind that
decision is that at MCBC baptism does not confer membership to a person.
Baptism is just one of the requirements for membership. We follow the New
Testament example of Acts 2:41 (among others): "Then they that gladly
received his word were baptized:" and baptize any who confess that
they have accepted Jesus Christ as Savior and Lord and desire to follow Him in
believer's baptism.
Membership is only conferred after someone has accepted Jesus Christ as Savior
and Lord, been baptized by immersion, met with the Pastor or designated
spiritual counselor, been voted on in the following church business meeting,
agreed to MCBC’s Covenant and Statement of Faith AND
agreeing to:
o Protect the Unity of our Church;
o Share in the Responsibility of the Church
o Serve in the Ministry of the Church
o Support the Testimony of the Church
While we will baptize unmarried persons living together without benefit
of marriage, we will not accept them into membership because their living
arrangement would not support the Testimony of the Church and violates not only
God's commandment prohibiting adultery, but also the more general
lifestyle guidance of Philippians 1:27 "Whatever happens, conduct
yourselves in a manner worthy of the gospel of Christ."
We would however welcome them to attend our church and be fed by our teaching
and ministries and to grow in their understanding of their new Christian walk.
As long as they continued in their unbiblical living arrangement they would not
be able to be a leader in a ministry because leadership requires church
membership.
4.
What does the Bible say about homosexuality?
Question: What does the Bible say about homosexuality?
Answer: The Bible very clearly says that homosexuality is a
sin.
"Homosexuality is absolutely forbidden, for it is an enormous
sin." Lev.
"Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the
While all sin is destructive, Romans 6 warns us of the great dangers in sexual
sin when it says, "Run away from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual
immorality is a sin against your own body." (1 Cor
I've heard it asked, "Isn't being homosexual something that a person is
physically born with?" First of all, there are absolutely no facts to
support this claim. From time to time studies have been reported in the news
that seemed to indicate this, but every one of these studies has proven to be
wrong. Secondly, even if some physical difference were discovered, it would be
no excuse for sin. We know that some people can develop a stronger physical
addiction to alcohol than others, but that's obviously no excuse for living an
alcoholic lifestyle.
Finally, a word about being judgmental. It's not judgmental to say that what
the Bible calls a sin is a sin, that's just telling the truth. Not being
willing to talk to someone caught up in sin, or not believing that they can be
forgiven, or thinking that you are not just as much in need of Jesus as they
are... that's being judgmental.
5.
What is the baptism of the Holy Spirit?
Question: What are your beliefs regarding the Baptism in the
Holy Spirit as a second experience? What are your beliefs on the gifts of the
Spirit? That is, speaking in tongues, prophecy, healing, miracles etc? Do you
believe they are for today?
Answer: Thanks for your questions about the Holy Spirit. We
have a class at MCBC called "Basic Christianity" that focuses on the
answers to questions just like you've asked. I'd encourage your small group or
Sunday School to do this study together! You'll be
able to get more complete answers than I can give you here. The reason we have
this class is because we know people like you have questions!
The Bible teaches that, at the moment you believe in Jesus, you are baptized
and sealed by the Holy Spirit. This one time experience that comes at the moment
of salvation is God's powerful way of declaring, "You're in my family and
I'm not going to let you go." The baptism of the Spirit happens the moment
you are saved, so you do not need a second experience.
Eph.
From the first days of the church, people have always been more impressed with
the spiritual gifts that are more spectacular (healing, tongues, etc). God
tells us in 1 Corinthians 12-14 that He is more impressed with the less
noticeable gifts, and that He is most impressed with love. Those chapters are
filled with warnings about using those more spectacular gifts in ways that draw
attention to ourselves rather than to the Lord. Paul
says that he would rather speak in a few words that people would understand
than in thousands of words in tongues. That is why we don't speak in tongues in
our worship services - we want to speak in ways that people understand.
Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled
with the Spirit. Ephesians
If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am
only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 1 Corinthians 13
6.
What does it mean to be a chosen people?
Question: What about the Jews. They follow the laws as handed
down to Moses. They do not accept Jesus Christ. How can they be saved and
insure their place in heaven? If they are God's chosen people, surely there is
some explanation.
Answer: When you begin to think about how those who have a
Jewish heritage come to salvation, the best answer is in looking at the first
followers of Jesus. The first disciples were all Jewish men, but their
salvation came through their relationship with Christ - not their Jewish
background. The same is true of the apostle Paul and every other Jew who came
to Christ in the New Testament. The truth of the Bible is,
we all come to salvation in the same way... through our faith in Christ. When
God calls the Jews His chosen people it does not mean that they are all
automatically chosen for salvation. It means that they were chosen to be the
nation that would follow Him and teach others what it meant to follow Him. That
is why Jesus went to the Jewish people first when He came to this earth.
Through the Jewish people (Jesus Himself was a Jew) He brought the blessing of
salvation to the world.
Of course, today there are not as great a number of Jewish believers in Jesus
as we would expect. If they are God's chosen people, why aren't more choosing
faith in Him? The Bible tells us in Romans 11 that there will be a day when
this will change - a day when there will be a great revival of faith in God
through Jesus among the Jewish people. Obviously this is a day that we, as
believers in Christ, want to pray for!
To the Jews, I became like a Jew, to win the Jews. To those under the law,
I became like one under the law (though I myself am not under the law), so as
to win those under the law. To those not having the law, I became like one not
having the law (though I am not free from God's law but am under Christ's law),
so as to win those not having the law. 1 Corinthians 9:20-21
Therefore, no one will be declared righteous in his sight by observing the
law; rather, through the law we become conscious of sin. But now a righteousness from God, apart from law, has been made
known, to which the Law and the Prophets testify. This righteousness from God
comes through faith in Jesus Christ to all who believe. There is no difference,
for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified
freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.
Romans 3:20-241
7.
What about stem cell research on embryonic
tissue?
Answer: The question about stem cell research is a question
about life. It is about improving the quality of life for all of us.
Who wouldn't want to improve the quality of life by discovering a cure for
cancer, or a way to grow a new heart or a new kidney? If you believe that
embryonic tissue is not a living person, or even if you are in doubt about that
fact, you'll most likely come down on the side of feeling that research is
warranted.
However, if you believe that life begins at the moment of conception, your
response is far different. Something in you recoils at the words in the White
House fact sheet, Federal funds will only be used for
research on existing stem cell lines that were derived: (1) with the informed
consent of the donors; (2) from excess embryos created solely for reproductive
purposes; and (3) without any financial inducements to the donors.
The words excess embryos" hit you deeply. How could any life be spoken of
as excess?" Even more horrifying to you are statements you read about
creating an embryo in a test tube in order to destroy it. Much of the argument
about stem cell research seems to focus on what ifs." What if people clone
themselves just for the extra body parts. What if we
developed embryos only to harvest their cells for our benefit."
You're not so worried about these possibilities - they sound like science
fiction to you. Your concern is with the present; with the way that life is
being treated now.
The question is - what does the Bible have to say about when life begins?
You made my whole being; you formed me in my mother's body... You saw my bones
being formed as I took shape in my mother's body. When I was put together
there, you saw my body as it was formed. All the days planned for me were
written in your book before I was one day old. Psalm 139:13, 15-16 (NCV)
"Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I
set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations." Jeremiah
1:5 (NIV)
Psalm 139 tells us that God knows us personally while we are being formed in
the womb, and Jeremiah 1:5 is one of many verses in the Bible that clearly show
that even before we were conceived God knew us as persons. Life begins when God
creates, and the Bible tells us that that happens in the womb.
President Bush's decision to allow federal funding of research only on existing
stem cell lines (cells that have already been taken from an embryo) has drawn
mixed reaction even from conservative Christians. Some applaud the fact that he
has cut off the possibility of funding for any newly created or destroyed
embryos, others feel that any use of cells harvested from embryos cheapens the
value of human life. These groups continue to agree, however, on the fact that
an embryo is human life - a unique creation of God.
You see, the stem cell question really is about quality of life. But, quality
of life is not limited to our physical health. We are more than body parts, we
have a soul. The choice to treat a living person as a medical commodity will do
more damage to our soul - to our quality of life - than a thousand cloned
hearts could heal.
I encourage you to think not so much about the President's decision as YOUR
decision. As believers in Christ, we are called upon to think differently and
to act differently than the world around us. This is one of those
opportunities.
What can you do?
1. Let others know, in a reasoned way, why you believe what you believe. The
truth has the power to set people free.
2. Make the decision yourself to treat life as life. That may mean:
• Accepting responsibility for an abortion that you had or encouraged someone
to have in the past, knowing that God WILL forgive you. (This is a TOUGH
decision for any who have rationalized an abortion.)
• Deciding against any infertility options that allow embryos to be frozen and
later discarded. (This is a TOUGH decision for couples who have yet to have a
child.)
• Deciding to speak out against overzealous stem cell research, even though you
know it slows down the process of finding a possible cure for someone you love.
(These are the most difficult sentences in this article to write. Having heard
the pain of abortion and of infertility, knowing the desperation that many
families feel as they are looking for the hope of a cure; I know how easily
these words could sting. Please accept them, instead, as the words of someone
who cares about you and who knows that God will meet you as you make these
tough decisions of faith.)
3. Pray for those who have the power to make decisions on this issue:
scientists and governments alike. Ask God to help them to see that they are
making decisions that are impacting not just people's bodies, but also our
souls.
4. Remember that God is still in control. He will bring to Himself the innocent
baby and the parent seeking for faith. He will direct and guide those who have
the humility to ask for His wisdom. And, as He always has throughout history,
He will show Himself as the real God to any who would attempt to play God.
8.
What is the meaning of "the fear the
Lord?"
Question: What does the Bible mean when it talks about “the
fear of the Lord?” I thought that love was supposed to cast out fear. Is the
word “fear” being translated in the wrong way in these Old Testament passages?
Answer: You hit the nail on the head when you pointed out that
perfect love casts out fear... so we can't have a loving relationship with God
in which we are also terrified or afraid of Him.
I don't think that the word is translated wrong in the Old Testament... it's
just that we have a more one dimensional idea of the word fear today. The word
fear also carries the idea of having a deep respect for someone's position or
power. I'm still learning what it means to see God, at the same time, as your
best friend AND as the ultimate power in all of the
universe. Unfortunately, these days we lean a little too hard towards the
"friend" side of that equation... and so, sometimes act as if we can
take advantage of God's grace or flaunt His power. The "fear of the
Lord" is a phrase that reminds us to keep our respect for God's power in
balance with our appreciation of His tender love.
His mercy extends to those who fear him, from generation to generation. He
has performed mighty deeds with his arm; he has scattered those who are proud
in their inmost thoughts. He has brought down rulers from their thrones but has
lifted up the humble. He has filled the hungry with good things but has sent
the rich away empty.
He has helped his servant
The fear of the LORD is the beginning of
knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and discipline. Proverbs 1:7
9.
Can I tithe to another christian organization?
Question: I give, first and foremost, to honor and please God,
but as a member of
Answer: First and foremost, your gifts to Saddleback are NOT
insignificant. People often make the mistake of thinking that their part of a
church is somehow lessened because the church has other members. Just as every
individual ministry is important, every amount of money given is important.
Many times the fact that people give just a little bit more helps us to begin a
new ministry that makes a tremendous impact on the church. Also, when you give
out of a faithful heart, God takes your gift and stretches it beyond what you
would add up with just numbers. Your giving is FAR more important than you will
ever imagine!
If you would ask this other ministry, or any other Para-church organization,
they would give you the same advice that I would. First give your tithe to the
church, and then give any gifts beyond that to meet other needs. The reason for
giving to the church first is because it is the Christ ordained body for doing
His work in the world today. Also, just to think practically, the more healthy
the church gets and the more people the church reaches and teaches, the more
people there will be to give to ministries such as this one you are talking
about.
Bring the whole tithe into the storehouse, that there may be food in my
house. Test me in this," says the LORD Almighty, "and see if I will
not throw open the floodgates of heaven and pour out so much blessing that you
will not have room enough for it." Malachi 3:10
10. Should
I pay off my debts or tithe?
Question: Should I pay off all of my debts before I begin to
tithe?
Answer: The Bible encourages us to do both, not one or the
other. In fact, I've found again and again that one of the keys to paying off
debts is beginning to tithe. It not only brings God's blessing to a person's
finances, it also helps them to begin to think more sacrificially, to plan more
carefully and to see God's direction more clearly. We have personal financial
counselors at Saddleback that help people who are in debt plan how to do this
with wisdom.
The Lord answered, "Who then is the faithful and wise manager, whom the
master puts in charge of his servants to give them their food allowance at the
proper time? It will be good for that servant whom the master finds doing so
when he returns. I tell you the truth, he will put him
in charge of all his possessions. Luke 12:42-44
If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your
children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who
ask him!
Matthew 7:11
11. Do
we really have free will?
Question: How could God know and plan everything that will
happen and yet also give us a free choice? Aren’t these two ideas mutually
exclusive?
Answer: One of the great truths of the Bible is that God is
able to know and be in control of all that happens (the Bible calls this
predestination), and yet still give us free will and individual choice within
that plan. Of course, it looks to us as if that were impossible. But that's why
God is God and we're not!
One picture that has always helped me to understand these twin truths of God's
sovereignty and our free will is that of two ropes hanging before you and
extending through the ceiling above your head. One is marked
predestination" and the other free will." If you were able to look
through the ceiling you could see that the two ropes are actually one, hanging
on a pulley above the ceiling. God can see, in ways that we cannot see, the
ways that these seemingly contradictory facts are actually one powerful truth.
Our free choice cannot violate God's sovereignty and God's sovereignty cannot
violate our free choice.
The other way that the rope picture helps me is as a reminder that I can't lean
more heavily on one of these two truths - God's will and our choice - than the
other. Be sure to keep these truths in balance. If you lean too far toward
God's being in control, you come down on the side of fatalism: it doesn't
matter what we do. If you lean too far towards man's free will, you come down
on the side of humanism: we are in control of our fate.
How do you reconcile those two? If God gives us choice, doesn't that put us in
control rather than Him? Our God is an awesome God! He is able to give us, as a
part His creation, a free will to decide, and yet still remain in complete
control of His creation. How does He do that? He is God!
Struggling to understand truths such as this reminds me of how great God really
is. If I were able to completely understand Him, He wouldn't be God!
For those God foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the likeness
of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brothers. And those he
predestined, he also called; those he called, he also justified; those he
justified, he also glorified. Romans 8:29-30
12. Jesus
as God's son
Question: If you had two minutes to convince a person of
Jewish belief about Jesus being our Lord and Savior what would you say? This
person has difficulty understanding that Jesus is God’s Son. Approaching people
with other beliefs is a weak spot for me.
Answer: I have talked with people who
matches the description of the person you're talking about. They expressed some real hesitancy in
believing that Jesus is God's Son, feeling that somehow she would be believing in two different Gods if they were to trust both
the Father and the Son. Your friend may be struggling with feeling that Jesus
is somehow not really God, and that to follow Him would be to miss out on
serving the REAL God. Explaining the fact that Jesus did miracles that only God
could do and that He was proclaimed to be God by the prophets and by His own
followers and that He proved who He was by His resurrection, just might help
your friend to see that believing in Jesus would not be a denial of his or her
faith, but the fulfillment of their faith.
Here are a few Scriptures that I'd encourage you to study regarding the truth
that Jesus is the God who can save and direct us.
God is creator - Isaiah 44:24 Jesus is creator - Colossians 1:15-16
God is savior - Isaiah 43:11 Jesus is savior - Titus 2:13
God is the I am - Exodus 3:14 Jesus is the I am - John 8:58
Jesus says, I and the Father are one." John 10:30
There is one mediator between God and man, Jesus
Christ." I Timothy 2:5
To learn more...
Do the Basic Christianity Study on Jesus.
13. What
does Jesus say about divorce?
Question: My question is about God. If after legal separation
there was no change in my spouse, does God recognize this as an acceptable
reason to terminate the marriage? I tend to think that if there is no change
then it should be acceptable to leave the marriage.
Answer: The Bible does not say that it is right for us to
leave our spouse for any reason. It does tell us to be at peace if they leave
us through adultery or desertion. God says this not to trap us, but to help us
to see the importance of marriage and the great pain that comes when a marriage
is broken.
God want us to grow in our relationships, and He wants to grow us even through
painful relationships. In cases such as you're speaking of here, the most
important thing to do is for the couple to get into counseling together. It is
not enough for one spouse to go, both must go. This is a problem that can't be
dealt with alone, but where we need the help of others. There is nothing wrong
with getting help, by the way... God has built us to need other people.
One of the pictures that I often give people to help in understanding this need
for outside help is that of being in quicksand. Sometimes an individual or a
couple find themselves in a problem, and the harder they fight to get out, the
more they feel like they are sinking in quicksand. In those times you won't
find the answer by yourself. The harder you work the faster you seem to sink!
You need someone outside of the situation (a good Christian counselor) to give
you a hand to help to lift you out of the quicksand. But you will need to both
trust this counselor to help you, knowing that they have your best interests at
heart.
As I said earlier, the Bible does allow divorce when the other person leaves us
through adultery or desertion. Actually, in those cases they have left us
rather than us leaving them. There is a third condition which I feel a need to
talk about, that of physical abuse. Although the Bible does not tell you to
divorce if this is the case, my advice would STRONGLY be to separate from your
spouse for your protection. It is not God's will for you to allow your spouse
(or anyone else) to continue to physically abuse you. Hopefully, that
separation will be the wake up call that causes them to get counseling to rid
their lives of this terrible sin. If this is the situation, please get in touch
with our lay counseling ministry and let us help you.
Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, "Is it lawful for
a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?" "Haven't you
read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male
and female,' and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother
and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh'? So they are no
longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not
separate." "Why then," they asked, "did Moses command that
a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?" Jesus
replied, "Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts
were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone
who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another
woman commits adultery." Matthew 19:3-9
14. Married
to an unbeliever
Question: I’ve become a believer but my husband is still an
unbeliever. We seem to constantly argue about my new faith, and I’m wondering
if it just wouldn’t be better for us to get a divorce. Does God have anything
to say about this?
Answer: This is one of the relationship issues about which God
speaks most clearly in the Bible. In 1 Corinthians 7 He talks very directly
about the circumstance of a believer being married to an unbeliever. You can
see the answer to your question yourself, straight out of the Bible. Look at
what verses 12-15 of that chapter say:
"If a Christian has a wife who is not a Christian, but she wants to
stay with him anyway, he must not leave her or divorce her. And if a Christian
woman has a husband who isn't a Christian, and he
wants her to stay with him, she must not leave him."
For perhaps the husband who isn't a Christian may become a Christian with the
help of his Christian wife. And the wife who isn't a Christian may become a
Christian with the help of her Christian husband. Otherwise, if the family
separates, the children might never come to know the Lord; whereas a united
family may, in God's plan, result in the children's salvation.
"But if the husband or wife who isn't a Christian is eager to leave,
it is permitted. In such cases the Christian husband or wife should not insist
that the other stay, for God wants his children to live in peace and
harmony." 1 Corinthians 7:12-15 (TLB)
15. Handling
disappointment
Question: Someone that I was very close to really let me down, and I don’t know what to do with the feelings of anger
that I’m having. They didn’t come through when I needed them to, and I just
don’t know if I can forgive them.
Answer: Your question seems to focus on "what do you do
when someone disappoints you?" The truth is, we're all disappointed by
people much of the time. Sometimes it is because of their lack of follow
through, sometimes it is because we have too great an expectation. Whatever the
cause, I've found it important to face those disappointments with a sense of
humility. Humility reminds me that I, myself, let others down, that often I
don't understand why people do the things they do, that there are times when
someone may be doing the best they can under the circumstances, and that I
can't see the hidden hurts and pressures of another's life. With that humility,
I can then talk to the other person about it, not with a sense of judgment but
with the gentleness of understanding that allows me a better opportunity to be
heard. Before giving this other person your forgiveness, first try giving them
your understanding. You may then discover that their actions toward you are not
willful sin, but instead just a matter of their being human.
"Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For
in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you
use, it will be measured to you.
"Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay
no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother,
'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when all the time there is a plank in
your own eye? Matthew 7:1-5
Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus, Who, being in
very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be grasped,
but made himself nothing, taking the very nature of a servant, being made in
human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself and
became obedient to death-- even death on a cross! Therefore God exalted him to
the highest place and gave him the name that is above every name, that at the
name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth and under the
earth. Philippians 2:5-10
16. Rebuilding
trust
Question: Does forgiving someone mean you have to just let
them keep hurting you?
Answer: No, it does not. Remember that, when God forgives us,
we still suffer the consequences for those sins. That same principle applies to
our relationships with each other.
Let me explain. Forgiving someone's wrong does not mean that you can't
challenge them to do what is right or that you automatically should begin to
trust them to do what is right. Forgiving someone for lying does not mean you
have to start believing everything they say. Even though you have forgiven
them, it will take them some time to rebuild your trust. That's the consequence
of their sin. Forgiveness is immediate, trust must be
rebuilt little by little.
Let me be very clear about this. Forgiving someone does not mean that you have
to pretend that the sin they committed against you never happened. That would
be foolish, and in cases such as physical abuse it could even be life
threatening. Forgiveness means that you let go of your feelings of anger and
retribution and hatred. It does not mean that you have to allow another person
to continually hurt you in the same ways.
"Be kind and compassionate to another, forgiving each other, just as
in Christ God forgave you." Eph. 4:32
"For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly
Father will also forgive you." Matthew 6:14
"Forgive , and you will be forgiven."
Luke 6:37
17. Is
tithing legalistic?
Question: Isn’t the idea of giving 10% to the Lord just a
legalistic, Old Testament rule? Why would we, as new covenant believers, do
this today?
Answer: To help you with your question about us being under
the new covenant... new covenant Christians can and should live out God's moral
and spiritual direction in the Old Testament. Jesus taught us in the Sermon on
the Mount that we should do it with a new heart and a greater passion, not as
rules to be kept, but as directions from God's heart to ours. Of course you can
make God's direction to tithe something that you do legalistically, just as you
could make attending church or reading the Bible rules that you keep rather
than a lifestyle God directs.
I don't know all of the reasons why God gave us the direction to give 10% so
often in the Bible, but I do know that this is a number that is high enough to
be a real faith challenge to me. I can't imagine God asking us to give in a way
that would not be a challenge and a sacrifice. I sometimes tell people (a
little tongue in cheek, I must admit) that, if you're really worried about 10%
being a legalistic requirement, just give 20% or 30% and then you'll erase that
concern!
"Just as you excel in everything else... in faith, in speech, in
knowledge, in complete earnestness... see that you also excel in the grace of
giving." 2 Corinthians 8:7
18. When
to turn the other cheek: Revenge vs. Self Defense
Question: I have a question that is relative to what the Bible
says about not enacting revenge. My six-year-old son has a neighbor boy, seven,
who is mean to him at times. He grabs him by his wrists and twists them hard,
or else grabs his fingers and bends them backwards. Answer: My
wife and I struggle with the biblical response to defending one’s self on the playground.
As much as I believe that we should instruct him to discuss this with his
playmates, saying "Please stop doing that, I don’t like it", the
reality is that I am of the belief that this 7 year old will continue doing it
everyday. Is there any latitude biblically, that allows us to instruct our
children to say, "please, stop doing that, I don’t like it, it
hurts", followed by, "If you don’t stop that, then I will hit
you"? This would be retaliation, however, I don’t
believe God intended us to be defenseless either. Any comments would be
appreciated. Thanks
You've asked some important questions. They give me a
chance to clear up some confusion with a few of the verses in the Bible. They
have to do with the difference between defending yourself and taking revenge.
NOWHERE in the Bible are we prohibited from defending ourselves. Even when
Jesus told us to "turn the other cheek" he was talking about someone
who had already insulted you, not a person who was threatening physical harm.
You can feel confident about telling your son it is OK to defend himself. Of
course, he'll have to do that in a way that fits with the rules of his
school... the Bible has a lot to say about respecting authority. You wouldn't
want your son to hit the other boy and then end up being the one in trouble.
But there are no playground rules (and nothing in the Bible) that would keep
him from strongly saying, "Stop that now" or from pushing someone
away who is trying to hurt him.
There is a difference between defending yourself from harm and taking revenge
for an insult or a hurt. We are told again and again in the Bible to not take
revenge for the hurts that have already happened to us. To help you to picture
this, Jesus did not tell us it was wrong to block someone's attempt to slap us.
However, if we are slapped, He told us to turn the other cheek rather than
slapping them back. He said this not because He wanted us to be punished with
another slap, but because He knew that retaliation always resulted in an
escalation of violence. As you know, the person who does not have to retaliate
is the one showing the real courage - and is the one who often causes the
violence to stop right then and there. To apply this principle to your son's
situation: he should defend himself when confronted but should not walk up to
the other boy and hit him because of what happened on the playground yesterday.
Revenge isn't swinging back when someone is swinging at you. Revenge is when we
make a plan to get back at someone who took a swing at us yesterday, or last
month.
"Do not say, 'I'll pay you back for this wrong!' Wait for the LORD,
and He will deliver you." Proverbs 20:22
19. Heaven
will pass away?
Question: Our small group was meeting last week and we came
across a verse that raised some questions. It’s found in Matthew 24:35 Jesus
says, "Heaven and earth will pass away, but my words will never pass
away." Several folks raised the question that they thought heaven was
eternal and would not pass away.
Answer: Can you shed some light on this verse and what it
means? Thanks.
God is eternal, and we will be in His presence, in a physical place called
heaven, for all of eternity, as believers. The group is right about that, and
that's what makes us think that heaven, as it is now, will last forever.
However, in Revelation. 21, God tells us that, when this world ends, He will
not only create a new earth, but also a new heaven. The PLACES of heaven and
earth as they are now will pass away, to be replaced by a new heaven and earth
where we will live together with the Lord forever. The PEOPLE who are now with
the Lord will obviously continue to live forever with Him whether in the old
heaven or the new heaven.
Why does God need to create a new heaven? I don't know! The Bible doesn't tell
us exactly why. One obvious reason might be that, since the new earth will be a
perfect place, there will be a greater connection between this new heaven and
earth than there is between earth and heaven now. You'll be able to go back and
forth between them, for instance.
"All creation anticipates the day when it will join God's children in
glorious freedom from death and decay." Romans
20. Women
and 1 Corinthians 14?
Question: I was reading in 1 Corinthians 14:34 that women are
not allowed to speak in the church. Whoa – what’s up with this!?
Answer: Historical perspective REALLY helps with this one. In
that day, men and women sat on different sides of the church. For a woman to
ask her husband a question she would have to shout it to the other side of the
church or disrupt the church service by getting up and walking over to him.
Apparently, this is exactly what was happening in the Corinthian church, and
their worship services were becoming a zoo. Paul is saying, "Listen during
the worship service, and talk about your questions on the way home."
"Now I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and
the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ if God." 1 Cor. 11:3
21. Tithe
on gross or net?
Question: I know that tithing is supposed to be giving 10% to
the Lord. Is that 10% of the gross or of the net after taxes? I don’t know that
I could afford to give 10% of what I earn before taxes!
Answer: Thanks for your well thought out question about
tithing. The practice that Christians have always carried out is the giving of
10% back to the Lord of ALL that the Lord has given to you - your
gross. It's not really a tithe to subtract out our largest payments and then
give 10% out of the remainder.
I know that this is a tremendous challenge. That's the idea! The Lord could
have asked us to give 50% to Him, but He chose 10%. I believe that this is
because that is an amount large enough that it takes a real act of faith and
trust to give it to him. God is not interested in our money so much as He is
interested in what it represents: our heart and priorities. The beauty is that,
when we give out of a good heart, God then uses it to bless not only us, but
many others.
I've talked to many people who felt exactly like you've expressed in this note
before they began giving, "There's no way I could give like that, even
though I might want to!" Yet when they've started to give they have seen
God bless them in a way that was life changing. And it's not always that He
gives us more money, sometimes He stretches what we have in miraculous ways.
You wouldn't have written this note if you weren't serious about wanting to
follow the Lord. I'd encourage you to start now and make the sacrifice to tithe
beginning this next month. Read Malachi chapter 3 (its
the last book in the Old Testament.) You'll find a verse where God encourages
us to "test me in this" by tithing. As you step out in faith, you
will begin to see God work in a great way in your heart and in your finances.
Remember the law of sowing and reaping. We will always reap what we sow, but
there is always a time period between sowing and reaping. Although it probably
will not come with the timing or in the way that you expect, you can trust God
to be faithful to bless your giving.
Bring the whole tithe into the storehouse, that there may be food in my
house. Test me in this," says the LORD Almighty, "and see if I will
not throw open the floodgates of heaven and pour out so much blessing that you
will not have room enough for it. Malachi 3:10
22. Serving
communion: Am I worthy?
Question: I’m a leader getting ready to share the Lord’s supper in our small church. I have to admit that I
feel very uncomfortable with this. I grew up in a church where a priest was the
only one who could help us with communion, and I feel very unworthy to do this.
Answer: There are two reasons why you shouldn't be nervous
about sharing the Lord's supper in your group.
First: The Bible teaches that every believer is a "priest" before the
Lord. Isn't that a wild thought!
"And now God is building you, as living stones, into his spiritual
temple. What's more, you are God's holy priests, who offer the spiritual
sacrifices that please him because of Jesus Christ." 1 Peter 2:5 (NLT)
That means you don't have to have special credentials to do any ministry for
the Lord. We all stand as equals before him. We do want people to understand
what the Bible teaches about the Lord's Supper before leading others in this
celebration - which is why we ask that people grow to the point of being small
group leaders before doing this.
Second: The Bible does not teach that communion or baptism have
sacramental power- they do not have the power to give grace or salvation. We
don't get more of God's grace just by eating a piece of communion bread and the
bread does not in any way actually become the body of Christ - which are the
beliefs behind the feeling that only a priest could give communion. The Bible
teaches that baptism and communion are symbols, that
they are spiritual pictures of what God has already done in our lives.
What a joy it is to help another believer picture the fact that they have a new
life through baptism, or to picture the truth that Jesus died for us in the
Lord's supper.
If you want to study this further...Look at our guide for sharing the Lord's
supper in your small group
23. What
about suicide?
Question: I heard that suicide is an unpardonable sin, and
that people who commit suicide will go to hell no matter what they believed. Is
this true?
Answer: Suicide is not an unforgivable sin. The idea that it
is unforgivable comes from thinking that, since you don't have time to confess
that sin after you've committed it (because it is a sin that brings your
death), you would be trying to get into heaven with an unconfused and unforgiven sin on your record.
The Bible tells us that, when we become believers in Jesus, He forgives ALL of
our sins. That includes not only sins in our past, but all of the sins we will
commit in the future. If this were not true, we would have to confess our sins
every second of every day, fearful that a car might hit us or a heart attack
might come in those moments after we'd committed a sin and before we had time
to confess it. God and His forgiveness are obviously greater than that.
While God will forgive the sin of a believer who commits suicide, there is
horrible loss any time a person takes their own life; the loss of a life that
could have made a real difference in the world and the loss of the rewards for
our work on earth that could have been enjoyed in heaven. If you know someone
considering suicide have them come in and talk to our
Sunday School teacher or Small Group leader... they'll get the encouragement
they need to make the right choice, the choice to live.
"...But if anyone does sin, we have one who speaks to the Father in
our defense - Jesus Christ, the Righteous One. He is the atoning sacrifice for
our sins, and not only for ours but also for the sins of the whole world" 1
John 2:1,2
24. Is
doing drugs really so wrong?
Question: I’m a new believer who really wants to live my life
for God. One struggle I’m really facing is quitting the drug habit I started
many years ago. I’ve been wondering, is this really so wrong? Even though I
know it might be bad for me, it’s not really hurting anyone, is it?
Answer: Doing drugs is wrong - it is a sin - for two reasons.
First, it is mistreating the body that is God's temple. God tells us to treat
this body in the best way possible because it is where He lives, now that you
are a believer. You can also mistreat your body by over-eating, smoking and
many other things. Although none of us are perfect, we want to treat the body
the Lord gave us in the best way possible. Doing drugs is also a sin because it
is against the law... and the Bible very clearly tells us in Romans 13 that we,
as believers, are to respect the laws of the land that we live in. Even though
you may not agree with the law (many people don't like the law that says they
have to pay taxes!) you still keep the law out of respect for God.
In order to change this habit you need help. Don't try to go it alone. At MCBC we
have a program called “Celebrate Recovery" that will lead you through a
Christ-centered recovery process. In this process, you'll find the power for
change that can come only from Christ and the value of getting strength from
others who are working to change in the same way as you.
"Or don't you know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit,
who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself,
for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your
body." 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 (NLT)
25. Train
up a child...
Question: There is a verse in the Bible that causes me a great
deal of shame or pain or guilt – I really don’t know which! "Train a
child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from
it." Proverbs 22:6 (NIV) One of my children has not gone to church
since she left our home and is living a very rebellious life, and I can’t help
but feel that this verse is telling me that if I had just trained her right
this would not be happening.
Answer: This great proverb has been the source of more
heartache than you can imagine. If you'll forgive me for writing a little more
than usual in this answer, I hope we can begin to heal some of that hurt. Here
is the pattern that leads to the heartache.
Even when our kids are small, we begin to worry whether they will make the
right choices in life. As Christian parents we'd like to have a GUARANTEE that
our kids will follow God even more fully than we have. With that desire, we
come across this verse and think, That's it! God has
promised that I'll always have great children."
But then IT happens.
Your child has a rough time in Jr. High or college. They fall in with the wrong
friends, and the heart for God that you had hoped for them is nowhere to be
seen. Then comes the thought that brings all of the
heartache. "If God promised that if I'd only raise my kids
right, they wouldn't turn away... what's wrong? Gods promise can't fail, so
maybe there is something wrong with the way that I raised my children." We
may never voice that thought to anyone, but not far below the surface it is
there.
Let me say three things if you are struggling with this. Even those who are not
parents will, no doubt, have an opportunity to share these encouragements with
someone someday.
1. In this world, there is no such thing as a perfect parent. This proverb is
not about guaranteeing that your kids will turn out perfectly if you're
perfect, nor is it about blaming yourself for the fact that you are less than
perfect. We live in an imperfect world.
2. In heaven, there is a perfect Parent. God's actions toward us are always
perfect, never selfish, and filled with constant love. Yet, look at how many of
His children have turned away from that love. It started in the garden of Eden! If God's perfect love toward us cannot
guarantee that none of His children will ever fall away, how can we put that
burden on our parenting? Your teaching cannot violate their free will to do the
wrong thing, any more than God's direction could keep Adam and Eve from eating
the fruit on that tree.
3. What, then, does this proverb mean? As with most of the book of Proverbs, it
expresses a universal principle, not an individual promise. Nine times out of
ten (more like 99 times out of 100), if you teach the right thing, your kids
will end up doing the right thing. That is God's moral law.
But don't miss the phrase, "when they are OLD, they will not depart from
it."
That doesn't mean 16, or even 26: it means old. The truth is,
those good lessons that you taught WERE heard; they did sink in. Stop telling
yourself that the time you gave to teaching your child was, "Just
wasted." Those teachings sunk in so deeply that even when they are old,
maybe even after you are gone, they will emerge again to give your now grown
son or daughter the direction that they need.
"Even a child is known by his actions, by whether his conduct is pure
and right." Proverbs 20:11
"The father of a righteous man has great joy; he who has a wise son
delights in him. May your father and mother be glad; may she who give you birth
rejoice! My son, give me your heart and let your eyes keep to my ways." Proverbs
23:24-26
26. Helping
my child understand God.
Question: Like most six year olds, when things don’t go my
son’s way he gets real upset. Lately, when things don’t go right he blames God
and it breaks my heart. For example, he hurt his ankle the other day. When he
woke up the next morning and it wasn’t better he cried, "I prayed all
night about my ankle and God didn’t heal me. He only helps the people in the
Bible and not me. I hate God!" He even gets mad at God about little
things. If he messes up on a picture he’s making or doesn’t catch a ball he
gets upset that God isn’t helping him. I don’t seem to have the right words to
explain to him that God loves him and is in control, but doesn’t necessarily
help him in every move he makes. Do you have any words of wisdom about getting
through to him?
Answer: As difficult a time as this is with your son, it also
sounds like a time when you will be able to teach him some things about who God
REALLY is, truths that many people never learn.
I know that you already see that your son needs to learn, during this time,
that being a believer in God does not mean we don't go through difficulties. My
encouragement to you would be to not be upset that he is acting this way...
it's a very natural reaction. You may be worried that these questions he's
asking mean he won't love God as he grows up, and nothing could be further from
the truth. These reactions give you the opportunity to tell him the truth about
the real God, that although bones don't heal overnight, HE made them so that
they would heal, that although, even as believers, we feel pain and
frustration, HE will help us to grow in spite of it all. Hearing those truths
from you now will put him WAY ahead spiritually. He'll still be Jekyll and
Hyde, like all 6 year olds are - but he'll be learning truths that will last a
lifetime!
"Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children and live a
life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant
offering and sacrifice to God." Eph. 5:1-2
27. What
is the meaning of a "New Earth"?
Question: I was reading in the book of Revelation about a new
heaven and a new earth. Are these two separate divisions of life after death?
Do some people get to go only to the new earth, and
others to the new heaven?
Answer: Don't think of the new heaven and earth as two
separate places, with only the "better" people getting into the
heaven part. The Bible pictures them as one place, with all who are in heaven
having the ability to be in both.
The fact that there will be a new earth along with a new heaven reminds us that
the afterlife is a material and real place. We will have new bodies, and God
will recreate this world to be even more beautiful and awe inspiring than it
is. Just think of what eternity will be like in a PERFECT heaven and earth!
"Then I saw a new heaven and a new earth, for the first heaven and the
first earth had passed away, and there was no longer any sea. Now the dwelling
of God is with men, and he will live with them. They will be his people, and
God himself will be with them and be their God. 4He will wipe every tear from
their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the
old order of things has passed away." Rev 21:1,3,4
28. Christian
rumors on the web
Question: I’ve received an e-mail saying that Madeline Murray
O’Hare is involved in a campaign to remove religious broadcasting from the air.
Is this true? What should I do about this?
Answer: If this story were true, we would want to immediately
act upon it. However, the story IS NOT true. It is a rehash of a story
(recently adding a paragraph about Touched by an Angel" at the beginning)
that has been circulated and re-circulated for years. Numerous statements have
come out showing that this information is false. I've copied a web address
below for you where you can learn more... and what it has to say about this
particular rumor.
Watch out for Christian Urban Legends" - there are a lot of them out
there! A couple of other false rumors that you'll often see are:
The Proctor and Gamble Rumor (Falsely stating that the company president said
on a talk show that the corporate logo is Satanic)
The Liz Claiborne Rumor (Falsely saying that she appeared on Oprah and stated
her allegiance to occultism)
The Janet Reno Rumor (That she appeared on 60 minutes and defined a cult as any
group with a strong belief in the Bible and in the second coming of Christ.)
You can read more about these and other false rumors at: http://www.snopes.com/ or http://www.symantec.com/avcenter/hoax.html.
"A truthful witness gives honest testimony, but a false witness tells
lies." Proverbs
"Do not spread false reports. Do not help a wicked man by being a
malicious witness." Exodus 32:1
29. Why
does God bless the evil but not the good?
Question: My big question is this: why does God bless the evil
but not the good? I don’t want to focus on myself, but it’s so difficult for me
to understand why we can’t have children when some woman who is on crack and
doesn’t even want a baby gets pregnant and has a child. Please help me to
understand.
Answer: Thanks for taking the time to write... you've asked
one of the most significant questions that can be asked. I've asked it myself.
Although the answer to this is certainly not so simplistic that it can be
expressed in a short reply, let me share a few of the thoughts that I've had as
I've struggled with this.
Jesus said at the end of Matthew 5 that God causes His blessing to be given to
both the evil person and the good person... and that both the evil and the good
go through difficulties also. Believer or unbeliever, evil or good; we all face
sickness in our families and natural disasters. God does not always protect us'
as believers' from having to face the same difficulties that unbelievers must
face, and He allows unbelievers to experience some of the same benefits that we,
as believers, enjoy because we are a part of His creation. One reason for this:
it allows those who don't know Christ to see what it really means to know Him.
When they see a believer finding even a bit of light in their struggle when all
they can see is darkness, it helps those who do not yet know Christ to see who
He REALLY is.
I know that the theology of that is no comfort for you as you wait for a child.
My wife and I had to wait for children much longer than we expected, and were
even told by doctors, at one point, that we would never have children. Believe
me when I say that I know the struggle you're facing right now, and that it is
one of the most hurtful things anyone can go through. I found, during this
time, that God did not turn the light on for me all at once... He just gave me
enough light to make the next step. My prayer is that He will do that for you
also!
We have a support group at Saddleback for those who are waiting for children to
come into their lives. If you haven't already attended, would you call the
church office and ask them when the "infertility" group next meets?
Almost all who attend have found it to be a great source of strength and
encouragement.
"He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on
the righteous and the unrighteous." Matthew 5:45
30. What
about dinosaurs?
Question: How do they fit in with the idea that God created
the world rather than the world evolving on it’s own?
Why doesn’t the Bible talk about dinosaurs?
Answer: The Bible tells in Genesis 1 that God made the world
in 7 days, and that He made all of the animals on the 5th day and the 6th day.
All of the animals were created at the same time, so they all walked the earth
at the same time. I know that the pictures we all grew up with in the movies
were that dinosaurs roamed a lifeless, volcanic planet. Remember these are just
pictures drawn by someone today! The Bible's picture is that dinosaurs and man
lived together on the earth, an earth that was filled with vegetation and
beauty.
What happened to the dinosaurs? The scientific record lets us know that they
obviously became extinct through some kind of cataclysmic event on the earth.
Many scientists theorize that this may have been an asteroid striking the
earth, while many Christians wonder if this event could have been the worldwide
flood in Noah's day. No one can know for certain what this event was.
Although it cannot be stated with certainty, it appears that dinosaurs may have
actually been mentioned in the Bible. The Bible uses names like
"behemoth" and "tannin." Behemoth means kingly, gigantic
beasts. Tannin is a term that includes dragon-like animals and the great sea
creatures such as whales, giant squid, and marine reptiles like the plesiosaurs
that may have become extinct. The Bible's best description of a dinosaur-like
animal is in Job, chapter 40. We don't know for certain if these are actually
dinosaurs or are some other large creatures that
became extinct.
This should not sound so strange. After all, God tells us that He created all
the land animals on the 6th day of creation, the same day that He created
mankind. Man and dinosaurs lived at the same time. There was never a time when
dinosaurs ruled the earth. From the very beginning of creation, God gave man
dominion over all that was made, even over the dinosaurs.
"For in six days the LORD made the heavens and the earth, the sea, and
all that is in them, and rested the seventh day." --Exodus 20:11
"All things were made through Him, and without Him nothing was made
that was made." --John 1:3
"Look at the behemoth, which I made along with you and which feed on
grass like an ox. What strength he has in his loins, what power in the muscles
of his belly! His tail sways like a cedar; the sinews of his thighs are
close-knit. His bones are tubes of bronze, his limbs like rods of iron. He
ranks first among the works of God..." --Job 40:15-19 (NIV)
31. Is
evolution part of God's plan?
Question: Why is it not OK for evolution to be part of God’s
plan? I don’t understand what the problem is: couldn’t God have used the
process of evolution as the way that He created the earth?
Answer: When I was a young believer in Christ, I had some distinct
feelings about the issue of evolution. Much as you have expressed, I believed
that evolution and the account of the Bible about creation could exist along
side of each other very well. I just didn't see what the big argument was all
about. I had some friends who had been studying the Bible much longer than I
had who saw it differently. But they didn't push me or argue with me, they
simply challenged me to take some time to look into the facts and study the
issues carefully. I'll always appreciate them for that, because this was an
issue that I had to really think through. Eventually, I came to the conclusion,
through my study of the Bible and science, that the
two positions of evolution and creation just could not fit together... that
there are some real problems with the idea that God created through evolution.
I would encourage you to take some time to study this issue. I found that,
although I'd understood the science side of the equation, I needed to take some
more time to read what the Bible really had to say about this subject. Not
having taken the time to really read the Bible, I was very ignorant about what
it had to say. Let me give you one example. I discovered that the problem of
sin, as addressed in the Bible, was much more serious than I had previously
thought. When I realized that the world was clearly a perfect place as God
created it, and that this perfection was ruined by the sinful choice of Adam
and Eve, it really started me thinking. Did the Bible teach evolution or did it
teach the creation of a first man and woman named Adam and Eve? If we evolved,
which human being would have made the choice that brought sin into this world?
If Adam and Eve were just allegorical pictures, why did the New Testament place
some much importance upon them as responsible and real individuals? Since God clearly
says that it is our sin that brought death into our world, how could there have
been death for billions of years before the arrival of the first man who sinned
on the earth? As I asked questions about this issue and studied what the Bible
had to say, I found it to be one of the greatest times of learning in my life
as a new believer. My prayer is that you will have this same experience!
"In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth." Gen.
1:1
"Through him all things were made; without him nothing was made that
has been made." John 1:3
If you want to study this further...
Here's a web site that you might want to check out: http://www.probe.org/content/section/13/67/
(One article that is especially thought provoking discusses "
32. What
about people who live in a country without Christian witness?
Question: What about people who live in a country where they
have never heard about Jesus? Will they be able to get into heaven by some
other way?
Answer: There is only one way to get into heaven, through what
Jesus did on the cross for us. He paid the price for our sins on the cross, no one else could do that because He alone is God.
What about those who haven't heard about the cross? They can be saved the same
way that the people in the Old Testament were saved. The book of Romans tells
us again and again that Abraham was saved the same way that we are, by his
faith. Abraham didn't know the name of Jesus or that one day Jesus would die on
the cross for his sins, but he trusted all that he knew about the God who had
shown Himself to Abraham. Because of that trust, when Jesus died thousands of
years after Abraham, the same forgiveness that was offered to us was given to
Abraham.
God still reveals Himself to people who haven't heard the name of Jesus today.
Romans